Does this qualify as irony?

On Thursday morning, we were sitting in those small chairs meant for elementary-aged students, not grown-ups. There were seven teachers and support professionals in the speech therapist’s room in addition to Peter, Philip, and me. Some were from the preschool, the rest were from the elementary school that Philip will enroll in this fall. We were going through Philip’s re-evaluation and updating his IEP (Individualized Education Plan) as part of this kindergarten transition meeting.

IEP meetings always involve negative statements. It’s the nature of the beast. We spend time hearing about skills Philip doesn’t have yet, can’t demonstrate on demand, or hasn’t quite mastered.

For example, under gross motor skills, Philip’s goal is related to throwing a ball. He can throw, but we are still working on accuracy. Directing him to throw at a target or another person is a work in progress. This ball-throwing goal ties into his social skill goals. Philip, as an only child, has a lot of experience playing by himself. We want to promote more interaction. Philip’s current teacher explained how she has rarely observed him taking turns with peers in her classroom.

Meanwhile, Philip was over by his future speech therapist’s desk. And what was he doing?

Tossing a ball back and forth with the therapist.

Let me repeat: he was taking turns throwing a ball to someone else.

Is ironic the right word for that?



17 thoughts on “Does this qualify as irony?

  1. If it were my kid, he would have done it on purpose, but I think it is irony in your case. I hope they noticed it too.

    We had our IEP meeting yesterday. Should be the last one (fingers crossed).


  2. I’m never completely clear on irony but it won’t be the first time that reality might be pretty different from what the IEP army sees in their assessments. There’s a bigger picture and there are often some nice surprises in it. πŸ™‚


  3. That’s the best thing I’ve heard all day – love it. I also love that your son was present during the meeting. Our IEPs haven’t included our kids, but it seems like a solid way to remind everyone that we’re discussing an actual person rather than a compilation of data.


  4. Yup. As a former English teacher I feel qualified to state that that is most definitely irony. And incidentally, the statement “can throw, but we are still working on accuracy” could be applied with equal accuracy to me. And let’s not even talk about catching. Just ask my kids.


  5. Philip will be just fine. Only children, tend to associate with adults a lot and progress very well. Don’t let those “experts” do a number on you.


  6. Found your blog tonight, and I really enjoy reading how much effort you put into your son! What a great mother! Don’t worry about what your son knows or doesn’t know yet. Life isn’t about facts, it’s about love. If he knows you love him, and he sees value in loving others, then you’ve accomplished a lot! Good job, Mama! Keep strong. πŸ™‚


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